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reply Re: Suspect fiance was abused , Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92 , 30 Dec 2005 18:41
plain Suspect fiance was abused , ****** , 29 Dec 2005 14:58
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Suspect fiance was abused
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Date: Thu, 29 Dec 2005 14:58:42 +0100
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I am engaged to a very beautiful woman. I do however beleive that she was abused at some point in her development. She has classic behaviour of an abused person. I will list these.
Alcohol abuse. (every Night)
Denial of abuse.
Hates her father. (no contact 5 years.)
Low self esteem.
Poor body self image.
Inability to communicate. (All of our problems are 100% my cause).
Prior relationship dufficulties. similiar outcomes.
Fear of intimacy. Non sexual.
An unusual disdain for any sexually explicit media. (Magazines such as Playboy, strip bars, any explicit movie. Uncomfortable watching Titanic.
Lack of ability to forgive.
Inability to trust. (has left recorder in house to monitor my activities)
The following however, is in my opinion the most telling.
We have tried 5 different counselors. In session where I am alone, the counselors have all intimated that they felt that she was a victim of abuse. Upon trying to get her to open up, she angrily denies that she was ever abused. One counselor felt close to getting her to open up, but at the last minute she closed up. I am looking for a way to get her to open up. She firmly beleives that all our problems are 100% my fault. I am looking for any suggestions that would help get her to open up. Or is it may imagination that the above symptoms may be related to other issues. I am not perfect and have given her reasons to have difficulties with me. However she seems to be incapable of moving on to the future.
Thank you for your time.
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Re: Suspect fiance was abused (Reply to: 59154 from ****** )
From: Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
Date: Fri, 30 Dec 2005 18:41:13 +0100
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Women usually do not like sexually explicit media. The personality you describe might be caused by sexual abuse, but this need not be the case.

Psychotherapy can help, but is hard to make people go through psychotherapy, if they themselves do not feel the need for it.




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