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reply Re: Unlikeable , Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92 , 18 Nov 2005 14:00
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Date: Thu, 17 Nov 2005 01:13:51 +0100
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I don't understand. I go out of my way to help others. I try to always be nice, but I am not afraid to confront if necessary. I do lots of volunteer work. I am self-employed and make a decent income. I am a single female. I do dress a little sloppy preferring t-shirts to sweaters and sneakers to heels. I am intelligent (have an IQ of over 145), but I make every effort to interact with people where they are at. People tell me everywhere I go that I am funny and enjoyable to be around. Yet, it seems like no matter where I go, I have trouble, cause trouble or am not liked. Every job I have had I have had trouble with another employee. I seem to invoke people's anger everywhere I go; church, work, volunteer activities... Even if someone knows little about me, I seem to end up making them angry with me or they end up somehow not likening me. I just don't get what I am doing wrong. I am very heavy set, but I know many other heavy set people who are adored or at least tolerably liked. What is wrong with me that nobody seem to like me or that people get angry with me every where I go? I want to hear more than "No one likes you because you don't like yourself" please.
If all I am going to do is cause trouble every where I go, or no one is ever going to like me as a friend, then, well, then why bother?

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From: Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
Date: Fri, 18 Nov 2005 14:00:51 +0100
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Ask people around you what is wrong with you. Do you confront them in a way they do not like? Are you too successful? Do you make other people feel inferior? Could you choose t-shirts and sneakers that look less sloppy?

Show people that you like them and admire them. Be more sensitive to their feelings and avoid doing anything to hurt them. Making people angry is never a good idea. Perhaps you should try to find new friends.




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