Home   News   Forums   Log in    Get personal advice    My area     Help    
Go to:
All forums
  Ask the Expert Areas
  No psychological free advice is available in English (for more info click "info")
  Won't have sex because of my past...

KOM2002 (question)  Won't have sex because of my past...

Won't have sex because of my past...
From: ******
Date: Mon, 17 Oct 2005 16:45:06 +0200
Language: English


Reply to this message

Reply to all  

My boyfriend of 8 months and I are planning a future together, becuase everything is perfect, except we started having less sex...I had to beg for it and when we did it was about once every two weeks for a very short amount of time. I hadn't even seen him cum in over 4 months, so when I pressed the issue he finally told me that he was totally embarassed to say that he was having a difficult time digesting the fact that I had been with someone of another race, bc he "doesn't believe the races should mix". He said that despite this belief he wants to be with me now and in the future and loves me....I have never seen someone cry before, but he broke down on me saying he knows he is being selfish bc this isn't fair to me, but that he doesn't want to lose me and has been and will continue to work on getting through this. I love him and have agreed to work through this, but already have had "no" put in my face upon trying to make an advance on him. It tears my heart apart to hear the one person who I want to be with on that level say no bc of something that in my mind is so trivial. I don't know what to do...I am not judging him, depsite this being against all of my ideologies and am willing work through this, but I don't see how it is ever going to change, especially since he's been "workign through this" on his own for 4 months now. Each night it pains me to lay next to him bc I can't touch him the way I want, but I don't want to walk away.....I appreciate him trusting me enough to tell me this, but now what do I do?!

How much is 3 + 2 :
Write Reply to Archive 112687

Author or secret name (pseudonym):
Enter the text...  Plain Text  Guess  HTML

Plain text

You are not logged in
Today's date: Mon, 18 Nov 2019 15:11:48 +0100
KOM 2002