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I have a mess on my hands
I have a mess on my hands
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Date: Tue, 11 Oct 2005 22:08:15 +0200
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I have sadly created a big mess. I have an 11 yr old child who has been raised believing my ex-husband is her father. He has not been the best father in the world but it is the one she knows. After resent contact with the bio-father he would like a relationship with her. (We both have known this day would come but the bio-dad nor I have not taken any measure to prepare for this day). He has not been a part of her life due to my fault. After a slow separation with my ex, about a month after we got back together I learned I was pregnant. We both were surprised and happy with the news. I knowing neglected to bring it up to my ex husband, that the potential was there. The bio-dad was informed by me from day one that I was pregnant and the day the baby was born. I know I have make a mess of all this by waiting 11 yr but I need to correct it now and for the sake of both the child and bio-father. Now to I go about this. PLEASE HELP, I want to do the right thing.
Choose a day when your daughter is calm and in a good mood. Begin by telling her that you are going to say something which might make her upset and ask her if she still wants to hear it. Accept all her feelings. Show her that you understand her.
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