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reply Re: Abusive and controlling husband , Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92 , 11 Oct 2005 12:27
plain Abusive and controlling husband , ****** , 11 Oct 2005 03:01
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Abusive and controlling husband
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Date: Tue, 11 Oct 2005 03:01:30 +0200
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I have only been remarried for one year, and it has been a nightmare. My husband never makes love to me. He treats me like dirt. He expects me to put his needs and wants first to the point where I don't count at all. Right now I'm recovering from major surgery and he threw a fit because I was crying from the pain after having the wound packing removed. He takes my money and spends it on himself. He tells me I'm fat and frigid. Most men think I'm beautiful and very sexy. He's the one who is overweight. He has kicked me and pushed me and threatened to kill me, tells everyone he knows that I'm crazy and I should be in a mental hospital, then pretends to be all sweet and nice to my face. I feel trapped. Do you think we finally get to a point of no return? For the longest time I've been vascillating about whether there is hope here. He'll be nice for a while, but never ever loving to me. And when the rages come, the violence seems to increase. I've been so confused by his behaviors, and what is really happening because he plays mind games with me all the time. It's been very difficult to cut through the fog and see things as they really are. I'm sure he's cheated on me throughout, depicting me as the victimizer, not the victim. This is one reason I think all women should refrain from extramarital affairs. We need to stop the nonsense and not accept bad behavior from men or ourselves. I think the love I had for him is all gone now. I just want to leave. But I have my son living with us. He likes his room and his school and has friends here now. How do I do this without disrupting his young life too much?
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From: Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
Date: Tue, 11 Oct 2005 12:27:38 +0200
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There is not much hope for your marriage, as the love you had for your husband is all gone. The atmosphere in your home is not good for your son either. If you want to make a last attempt to save your marriage, you can try family therapy.




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