I am a 28 year old woman, beautiful,started dating a married man 2 years ago. I couldn t resist him. he is 45 year old. We do not always go out alone for week ends for eg. as he is overhelmed by work, he doesn t have the time, but we work together (he is my professor). when I started dating him, he explained to me once and for all that he has problems with his wife but he loves his children a lot and he is attached to them and they are a priority in his life, he was about to divorce but he couldn t coz he was attached to his son, and now he has a 3 years baby girl. So he and his wife have a compromise for living together bcoz of the children as per him. He said that he is in love with me, and he adores me ( his wife has the same age of him).
I don t know really if he is attached to me or if he is lying , and i can not accept the idea that one day i have to leave him and plan for my life ... I always think that i have to leave him but i can not, i m getting attached to him day after day and he is getting to that also but he doesn t make any efforts to make me feel happy, he realizes that i m depressed bcoz we do not go out very often but he doen t make any effort... does he love me?
No, he loves to have sex with you and uses your naiveté. When the passion is over, he vill stay in his marriage and find another victim. If his marriage was as bad as he says, he would already have divorced his wife. Do not expect that he will divorce his wife and marry you.
You are not alone! Our lives are parallel, and I can tell you from the bottom of my heart that you must move on and make a life for yourself. He may very well love you, but he does not know how to love a woman. He will never give you the love you deserve - he doesn't have the equiptment to give anyone that love. Even if he did leave his wife, would you want to start your life with someone who was so selfish and treated you in such a manner? He will take you down with him.
I know and understand your pain. The endless hoping and unconditional love are wearing you out because they are not being accepted. I know you can't imagine a life without him now. But you must. You are beautiful and have a brilliant life waiting for you. You must go and live it. He will never be able to give that to you. There will be a man out there who will treat you like a goddess. Go your own way for awhile and find what you've been missing. Be strong. I send love and understanding and prayer your way. May you find some solace and peace.
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