Re: Sex, Lust, Relationship with Women

I am a confused soul with several issues about relationships with women.

I don't know but i have developed a kind of single-minded attitude towards relationships with women that it's all about sex. May be my upbringing and the background has a part to play in it.

With my mother, i have never been able to get intimate emotionally and all she thinks about guys is that they want sex from her. She is superficial herself and quite lustful of life but has high morals at the same time. She always sort of avoids me and puts me away when i approach her for emotional support. She believes that man are supposed to be strong and not have emotions. Also the only thing that man and women can share is sex. There is no middle thing.

At times, she has made comments on my sexuality and my attitude towards sex in a way that made me feel guilty of myself of having such feelings or thoughts. I am sort of trying to repress my sexual feelings for quite some time now. Though i am quite a lusty person myself because of my mother's treatment towards me. This is not helping me and i am getting depressed and sad.

Personally i have had relationships with girls who were quite empathetic unlike my mother and they do also realize the importance of emotional bonding and support in the relationship. But my upbringing and my relationship with mother keeps reasserting me that only thing important is sex and nothing else between man and woman. I have sort starting hating women and avoid them most of the times. I am empathetic towards them either. I was not like this always and respected women but my mother has made me start hating women. I am not strong enough to stand against my mother but can't accept her way of thinking either.

Please help.