I have a seven year old. her dad and i have no formal cousdy agreement. But scince she was aliitle under one she has gone back and forth betwwen us. She spends a week at my house a week at her dads. We live about 5 blocks from each other. He got married and has a 3 year old old. My daughter is very close with her step mom.when ever there's a problem with my daughter and i try to talk to her dad about it he thinks i am trying to take her away from him. recently her step mom and i have tried to get him to spend more time with the children. she feels like shes doing everything and he doing nothing with the kids and in thier relationship. he gets mad at her stepahnie if she wants me over him he get upset if i try to make suggestion of things he should do with her. I finally told him yesterday we all need to go to counsiling to make this better her at both houses and he took it asi am trying to take her away how do i get through to him this is not what it is about. my mother died wheni was 5 my dad rasied me i love him so much and i want that for my child no matter what. it hurt me when her stepa mom came and she soemtimes choses her over me but i can't blame stepahnie or lynn. i have never taklked about taking her never threathened him i am very open alot more than most people why can't he understand i want whats best for her. how can i help him understand?

Your husband might have experiences from his childhood that made such a great impression on him that he cannot see reality the way you see it. That can be an explanation why he reacts the way he does.

Ask him to explain his feelings and views and show him that you understand his views. This might help.