Have you discussed this with your wife? What does she say? If she does not want to help you, when you get ill, you will have to arrange your life so that you can get help anyway. But perhaps she did not share your view on how ill you were and what aid you needed?
If you have panic or anxiety attacks, there is a possibility that you might exaggerate the problem. Read what we have written in Web4Health about panic and anxiety attacks and their treatment.