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reply Re: nasty co worker , Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92 , 24 Apr 2005 08:23
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nasty co worker
From: ******
Date: Sat, 23 Apr 2005 22:03:15 +0200
Language: English


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There are a couple very nasty coworkers that I have to deal with at my workplace.Each time something occurs,I try very hard to defend myself,but afterward I actually feel sick to my stomach and I shake badly.I end up leaving work early in order not to face these people and am considering quitting my job because of it.I would like to know how I can overcome this problem and stop being so afraid of people,because I realize that no matter where I go I will find someone who thinks they can be mean to me.
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From: Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
Date: Sun, 24 Apr 2005 08:23:04 +0200
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Mean people are doing with their words what enemy soldiers do with their guns. They are dangerous and should be avoided. It would be good if you can find another job.

Nasty people are emotionally handicapped; they lack empathy. Try to find friends and talk to them about the nasty people you meet, in order to express your feeings.

To protect yourself: wonder what kind of nasty things they will invent today? Observe their behaviour, regard them as interesting phenomena to observe and investigate. Write date, time and what they did on a paper and save it for future use. There is also another method of protection: you might want to try the Paradox method. Each time they are nasty to you, play a game with them and thank them for their fine behavior- "oh thank you so much for your kind behavior..." But you need to be a good actor to carry this off. If you can, it will confuse them so much, perhaps they will leave you alone.

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