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reply Re: Pls. help me. , Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92 , 01 Feb 2005 17:15
plain Pls. help me. , ****** , 01 Feb 2005 09:13
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Date: Tue, 1 Feb 2005 09:13:26 +0100
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I am a 24 yrs old boy. My problem is little bit different.
some 4 yrs back, one girl (She is 4yrs younger than me) used to look me when i was in the bus stop. I liked her and i too started looking her. This continued for 1 yr and suddently after that she changed her to school and we were not able to see. That depressed me lot and i used to see her in sundays when she used to go her church and she also looked me. This again continues for one year. And we never spoke each other. Then she joined in a college and we again started seeing in the same bus stand and this also continued for one year. But, the real problem started in the next year. From the next year onwards she used to turn her face to some other side and when she saw me in front of her. This depressed me lot and started worrying why she was behaving like that and i didn't had that much boldness to ask her abt that. So slowly stopped seeing her and changed my mind set and completly forgot her after 1.5 yrs. But, now she is coming back and saying 'I love u' to me. Due to some personal and family reason, i am not in a position to accept her. When i asked "Why you turned your face to other side when you saw me in front of you?" she said to concentrate on her studies she avoided me. Now, she is crying to me that she cannot think other guy. She said she was going to commit suicide and i struggled a lot to convince her not to do that. Now, daily she calls me. When i scold her not to talk to me, she says she want to hear my voice. She is crying. she speaks so sentimentally. I was explaining my inablity to become her husband she is not accepting. she says she is not able to forget me. But, it's totally not possible for me to accept her.

I am not able to concentrate on anything and i am feeling embraced. Please advice me. I don't know what i am doing is right or wrong.


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From: Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
Date: Tue, 1 Feb 2005 17:15:20 +0100
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If you don't want to marry her, you do not have to do that. You cannot marry a person, only because she threatens to commit suicide. There has to be mutual love and respect.

Don't look at girls in the future as you might give them unrealistic hope.




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