Re:Autism

Hello Doctor,

I recently found that my husband is autistic. He sometimes gets depression along with vomiting and diarrhea ,and his hands and legs gets very cold along with dizziness and shivering. He won't take sweets but likes salty stuffs.He has the tendency to argue to everyone and hence don't have any friends .He hails from a scientist family. He is very particular about dressing , he used to wear only 100% cotton material. And when any guest comes home he falls ill.

We have a 3 and a half year old son ,have speech delay and we went to the child neurologist did all the test including DNA but medically everything came normal.But the doctor said that our child may have suspected mild autism.

I am very much depressed and confused. I want your expert advice so that i can help my husband and child .Hope to hear from you soon.

With best regards,
MACH.

Regarding your son, you should contact specialists to hear their opinion. Try and get a hold of books that increase your knowledge of autism. Support your son in his development and try to get the best possible help for him in kindergarden and at school. With the same set of basic conditions, children can develop differently and their success is dependant upon the kind of help that they recieve. You can also read what Martin Winkler has written about autism at web4health.info.
Concerning your husband his persona is already set and will probably not change into a completely different person. The best for you to do is to accept him for the person that he is and give him lots of appreciation when he makes you happy. Criticism only makes a person more set in his way whilst praises makes him want to evolve. Discover your husband's positive qualities and accept the fact that he is not much for socializing. Se to it that you get to spend time with others as much as you need to, but let your husband be at home if he wants to. Many men feel that it is enough with work and family and do not have the same needs of friends as women have. Encourage your husband to seek out a doctor to deal with his physical symptoms.