my controlling, ignorant mother

hi, my problem is that my mother never listens to me no matter how many times i tell her the same thing. i had weight loss surgery last november and mother constantly asks me if i've seen the nutritionist and i keep telling her it's dietician. she says she's trying to be supportive but she has never been supportive of me my entire life. she is driving me crazy because she is determined to be ignorant of my feelings. I am 40 years old and she treats me like a 4 yeaar old. i am so sick of her harping at me about my weight loss, but she wont stop asking me about it even though i have told her to quit asking she acts like there's nothiong more to my life than my weight loss. i eat when i get stressed out and mom's harping on my weight does not help. the other problem is that she has my inheritance money from her father's death because io'm on disability and the money in my name will mess up my benefits, anyway mom is a control freak with my money and always needs to know what i need it for and i'm sick of it. why can't she stop treating me like a kid?

Start by showing her that you are responsible and act as an adult when dealing with her. That way she is forced to adapt to your new way of being. If you are childish you will bring out the parent in her, subsequently, if you act as an adult you will bring out her adult sides. When it comes to your money you should discuss the matter with a lawyer who can tell you about your legal rights.