I am an Indian.
I am facing problems with my mother. When we (1 syster + 2 brothers) were children my mother suffered a lot to look after us. My father was not able to work and our family financial condition was so bad. In fact my mother lived only for us. Now all of us got job and financially very stable. We got married also. All of us living separately. Mother staying with me, my wife and and my 6 month old baby. After my marriage she changed completely. She is fearing that my wife is taking my control and my mother lost her grip on me.
She is complaining that after my marriage, I am not giving considerations for her needs. In fact my wife is of very good character and she never tried to separate mother from me. Now mother getting angry very often also she used to cry a lot sitting lonely in a room. She is not interested to go out now a days. Also she always try to find out something wrong with me and my wife. No happyness in my home now a days. I do not want to live without my mother and my wife. I want to stay with them and live a peaceful life. I tried to take her to a phychologist, but she was not ready saying that she do not have any mental disorder.
How can I get my "old" mother? Can I solve this issue?
Your mom is no longer head of the family. Your wife now has this role. However kind and charming your wife is, your mom has a worse position in the new family and she feels that she is no longer the family's most important person.
Your mom seems depressed. She could possibly benefit from Prozac or some other anti-depressant medicine. This could give you back your old mum. Speak with a doctor.