Hi, I'm very concerned about telling one of my partners about the fact that I potentially have Chlamydia. He's aware of the fact that I have multiple partners as I am polyamorous. We have only had vaginal intercourse twice (using condoms) but frequently engage in oral sex. In the past month I have one partner who I've engaged in unprotected sex with and one I've had protected sex with in addition to this partner.
The reason for my major concern is my partner's high anxiety with sex and STIs in general. I have herpes, which he's aware of and that is part of the reason he has anxiety about having sex with me. But aside from my issues he's had a long history of anxiety and depression surrounding sexuality and some other sexual dysfunction.
He is a very good friend and I don't want to lose him. I know that he will freak out when I tell him and I am worried this will set us backs lot in regards to our relationship progression. I can't take ownership of his freak out but I am so worried he's going to have a low opinion of me and distance himself because of this.
Do you have any advice for how to handle this situation?
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01 Nov 2015 10:59
