My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. We love eachother and want to grow together and learn all we can about life. Someday we want a family, when we are ready. For a while now, I have caught him looking at porn, and hiding it from me. I tell him not to be ashamed, maybe we can watch it together. We have become very open with our feelings and desires. Until recently he told me he wanted us to have sex with other people, together. He acts like this a common thing for couples to do. I may know a couple people who do this, but for the most part, most couples I know don't. I am trying to be open because I love him, but think about this conversation all the time now and dont know how to handle it. Is this a normal thing for people to do and i'm just overly sensative? I feel i'm behind times, still wanting the life I wanted when we started dating, but i'm too old fashioned. I would be happy if we could keep or sex between our physical bodies. Any advice?
Some people do it, but most people don't do it. You should certainly not participate in such activities unless you yourself want to do it. Do not feel compelled to do it just because your boyfriend wants to do it. You have the final voice on what kind of sexual activities you want to participate in.
On the issue of watching porn, you could certainly do it together with your boyfriend. But you should be aware that porn does not show normal sex. Just as one example, real women usually are quiet during sex. The kind of moaning that women do in porn movies is not the way real sex usually is. And most people do not participate in anal sex, which is common in porn movies.
Personally don't do it I've heard of this before and these relationships end up in break up try creating some role playing . Go shop at a naughty store no not just for outfits but some toys you and him can use together like a vibrator or buy him a strap on and if you don't know how to have an orgasm learn ,try all kinds of vibrators you'll find they are amazing. And youl know which one is right for you!! Also learn to talk dirty most men love this example (would you like to see me lick someones ________. ) pick places to have sex besides the bedroom . Some where where you might get caught that is always a thrill. Also if you can't talk dirty or don't know what to say buy some dirty magazines and read this will help!!! Keeping a sex life alive is work but enjoyable with just you and your partner you don't need the other to have fun trust me I hope I coul help I have been married 13 years and my partner and I are very active in all ways and all places . And we have chilren play play play and don't be shy girls tend to be shy about their bodies don't be comfortable in your body confident. And enjoy sex together alone it may take a bit of work on your part to change his idea of others joining you!!!!
Hey! sorry to hear about your situation. I am a guy and I'd like to express my opinnion. I think your boyfriend doesnt love you that much and that he doesnt VALUE you. Maybe he does love you but he just doesnt know. You should "leave" him if he still wants to be with other women. Pack your bags and go for a few days and let him know you are not be taken for granted. If he calls you saying that he just wants you and not other women than he does love you.. If not I wouldn't be to sure :