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reply Re: I torture myself with ridiculous thoughts and fears? , 10 Jan 2012 12:45
reply I torture myself with ridiculous thoughts and fears? , 5E381695CFB8502A4302A92CCF63B385 , 29 Dec 2011 17:04
sad I torture myself with ridiculous thoughts and fears? , 2096D4AAD061D5D6ACD5ABE58C23C6C9 , 20 Dec 2011 03:08
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I torture myself with ridiculous thoughts and fears?
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Date: Tue, 20 Dec 2011 03:10:05 +0100
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I don't know what is wrong with me. Perhaps it is anxiety? I am in a relationship (it is my first to be exact) and my partner goes through these strange phases where they need space. And I'm okay with giving that. But then on top of it, they also have a lot of allergies (some life threatening) and they get sick often. So for the past 8 or so weeks, I haven't seen much of this person and when I have - they have been distant and totally disconnected. They don't even say, "I love you" back to me. I know them well enough to know that they just need a time out. But I keep playing out things in my head, like expecting any day now to get an email or to have them tell me that they want to just be friends. I feel really unwanted and unloved. And that's so selfish of me, because I should be okay with just being there if they need me and giving them the space that they need. Right now they are not sick anymore, but still don't feel "normal" or like themself, so I'm still giving space. But it's hard. I miss my partner. I miss feeling wanted and loved. And I keep getting these fears and (literally to the point of bawling) thinking that they are going to leave me. What is wrong with me?
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I torture myself with ridiculous thoughts and fears? (Reply to: 168013 from 2096D4AAD061D5D6ACD5ABE58C23C6C9 )
From: 5E381695CFB8502A4302A92CCF63B385
Date: Thu, 29 Dec 2011 17:04:38 +0100
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Hi

Nothing is wrong with you, You are Human!

It made me feel a little better knowing I'm not the only one going through a similar situation. I am torturing myself with other crazy ideas and that led me to believe I'm turning Psycho, I do believe that personal space is necessary but for to long can cause that distance to be filled by a new "fun feeling" for our partners and that's when we feel unloved and alone (Not knowing why they are acting different towards us)I call it the fear of the unknown, I'm sure many people do. I have to be honest and tell you that I believe God is the solution to all our problem, I pray for a healthy relationship for both of us. Please find that this following prayer is our salvation, Lord, Please grant me the serenity to know what things I cannot change, The Courage to change the things I can, And the Wisdom to know the difference. AMEN

We cannot change our partners minds, we can change OUR emotional state of mind.
Goodluck

P.S Don't tell God how big your problem is..... Tell your problem how BIG your GOD is!
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Re: I torture myself with ridiculous thoughts and fears? (Reply to: 168251 from 5E381695CFB8502A4302A92CCF63B385 )
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Date: Tue, 10 Jan 2012 12:45:29 +0100
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exact same situation with me..! i dont knw.. wot the other person want.. and why the distance..! i think they started liking someone..or i m not go0d enough..! i dont know wot to do.. searched "how to forget a person" :p. couldnt got wot i want..! i even now think why i got in this situation..! i wanna get out of this and live my life..! what should i do ?

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