Stubborness

Hello, I'm here not because of myself, but of my other half. He is 17, from America. He has trust issues especially with women, because of his past relationships with them. He told me they were never fully faithful and so he began a trend of calling all women (excuse my language) whores. Even though I was an exception, he still struggles with trusting me with other guys. He is a person that's really hard to understand and he can get very difficult at times. Compared to other people I have dealt with, he is an extreme and I don't know where to start at times to help him. The main reason why he is difficult is because of his stubborness, he is even too stubborn to deal with his own stubborness, if you understand where I am going. I talked to him about this recently when we were chatting over the IM, so I'll just quote our dialogue in here.



He says:
I just realized we argue like 75% of the time
I says:
Thats an exaggeration.
He says:
Is iit?
I says:
Well I dont think we argue all that much
He says:
well maybe it's just me being a dumb ass
So
I'm a dumb ass 75% of the time
and we argue 25%
I says:
Hahaha okay. Well
I dont mind arguing with you.
Cause in a sense
thats actually my way of trying to understand you since you never really tell me anything bout what you think unless i ask
He says:
Yeah good luck
I don't even understand me
I says:
You could always help me
no one really fully understands themselves either
He says:
I'm like a closed book written backwards in code with all the pages torn out
I'm sure I don't fully understand you either
I says:
Haha but hey im willing to be patient
He says:
Yeh, youll very slowly get to know just how bad I am
I only get worse babe
I says:
You wont scare me away, if thats what youre worried about.
If you want me to be fully honest, yeah there will come a point where ill be struggling to cope with things, but..
as long as your open towards what I think and not shun me away just cause you dont agree, then everything will be fine
Agree to disagree right?
Im sure thats just what you think. Youre not as bad as you think you are, but if you go on like that being stubborn bout how you are..
then youre just really gna end up like that
Just like Rene Decartes said "I think, therefore, I am"
He says:
As long as you're not struggling all the time
I says:
Yes babe, Im going to be strong for you
really think about what I said okay?
He says:
I don't want you to have to be strong
I says:
Theres nothing wrong with that, its what makes me human
He says:
You shouldn't have to struggle
I says:
There are no relationships that never go through struggles.
In fact, a relationship its at its best through struggles and they find a way to overcome it
but babe, I cant do it alone. Im not as strong as I wish I could be, thats why I need you in the first place.
He says:
How do I help ?
I says:
Be more open minded and think from different perspectives. Help me undertand how you think and we can compare our thoughts and stuff
We have to hear out each others thoughts and opinions
You cant always use your "my way or the highway" technique
He says:
well
Some things I'm just not willing to change my mind about
I says:
Hahaha I know. Thats why youre such a kid
He says:
it's not my fault I think they're right
I says:
A person's beliefs can sometimes be wrong.
Thats why I said you have to think from anothers perspective. Cause you need to know whats good or right in order to make a difference in your life
Im not saying that youre wrong with the way you think. In fact, yeah there are many things I agree with, like when you say all girls are whores, or everyone just wants attention from the other sex etc.
But there are factors you need to consider, like none of these are absolute cause they're only true to a certain extent. or a persons faith/will has the ability to change all that.
He says:
I don't like saying the way I view things cause it makes me sound uneasy and like I have no confidence
And a lot of people don't get why I view them that way
I'm done opening up here
I'd be able to explain better another time
I says:
Theres no reason why you should feel uneasy. Theres nothing that wrong with being sensitive. I like your sensitivity untill the point where you are just being stubborn ;b haha. But I still think you should share even if it makes you uncomfortable cause its good to expose yourself to other thoughts. and you can do that on your own pace.
He says:
I'm a stubborn person. Everyone says it. I can't change it
I could try to hide it and other stuff, but not change
I says:
im not talking about changing really, and especially not hiding.
But you know those times where. Even though you think youre right, sometimes you have to let it go? Give in, so you can agree to disagree. its impossible to come to an agreement with everything. And at the same time the relationship holds more value than being right, thats why comprimises are made.
He says:
Then what's the point of saying anything in the first place?
I says:
Im just saying when it comes to those circumstances only. theres nothing wrong with sharing, so you sholdnt be keeping it to yourself.
And what you said about you bein stubborn.. being stubborn is fine, being irrational isnt. we just need to know the difference between the two i guess
He says:
Whaatever
I says:
Hahaha. Okay.. we can stop talking about this for now.

I'm no psychologist, so I dont know if my approach is good or right. I especially get stuck when dealing with his stubborness.