hi . i am a 20 year old guy . and ive been through a lot of shit in my life. i had apretty stable life .. but then i started pre uni and went to school with people of 17-18 years old. i mean i realised after a while that they started copying my behavior and also the way i talk and they started hating everything i do and say . i had everything but i lost just because at first i was really taking what they were saying as an important thing and because i thought they were my friends .. i am really feeling very bad.. i start being jealous of them now because they are getting what i had and i am losing everything .. i even am fucking up my whole life. i am very confused and lost . i am now a very different person and with no self esteem . i want to know what shouild i do .. i feel sad now. i was a guy who was always happy and with loads of friends . but now just because i went through what they put me through i am nowadays somebody who hates and i just do not know what to do . i need help .
I felt really sad when I read this. I became even more sad when I didn't see a response.
I don't know that I can be of any help but I feel like you need to talk to someone. It's not clear what has happened and therefore hard to understand the situation, but I do realize that you need someone to support you.
Do you have anyone that you trust?
My name is Kay. I feel really sorry for you. I think that besides what you are feeling right now you must be a very charismatic person, otherwise you wouldn't have had so many friends in the first place. You have simply allowed others to get the best of you and you have allowed them to smother you for far too long.
First, please think of a way to strengthen yourself. Call it a sort of come back :). Think about how you would like to be and then pretend (don't think grandiose), small and simply is better for the time being. Be subtle about it also, wait for others to notice. You were awesome before and you still are. Not because they stopped liking means you have changed to a point of no return. You are just covered up right now.
After you have master feeling comfortable with the new you, try showing it to one are two people that "hate" you. If they don't see it then, (pardon me) fuck them. A person who can't recognize the hard times you have been through and see how hard you have worked is not worth it, I promise. Try making new friends, but hold yourself close so that no one can hurt you in this way again.
Good luck. You don't have to let anyone smother you, please don't let them. Remember the Confident YOU and be that again. Even if it's with another crowd. And if you are in a small community, from reading your post I think you have it in you to find your way back in. Just be confident and look as if you are not trying.
hi there!I have an advice for u: Never care what people say or think about u! U are young ,u have your whole life ahead u, do whatever u like,find friends who like u for who u are,friends that u have things in common with,try to live your life at maximum,dont care what other people have,u dont have to be jealous,u are way much better than that!Fight for what u believe in!Fight for your happiness!Do things u like,that make u happy!
hi kay . thanks a lot for your detailed explanation . as if i didnt had a lot on my mind and in my life. my doctor diagnosed that i had bipolar disorder . i was so much taken aback . i didnt know what to do .. but you guys gave me a little bit of courage to kick back . i am trying to and i am sure it will be a tough road but at least i try to cope and ill see what change will happen > thank you a lot ! :)
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