As i am 29 year old guy last year i got divorce from my wife and i don't have any child.From past 2 years i am staying alone and due to my earlier inter cast marraige my parents are now not accepting me.
Still i was managing every thing on my own till date. meantime i am having any friend and i am feeling very alone.
Last month i met with girl in my office she was 22 years old, i like her and she also like me i shared my no with her and she also shered her no with me.
After some days we started taking and sending sms to each other. In that discussion she told me she don't have boyfriend and waiting for good guy, after few days i asked her to meet me for lunch on holiday, in spite of confirmation she just ditched me with reason she was not keeping well and stop replying my calls as well as my MSG.
After 1 week again we decided to meet on Sunday at 11.00hrs , but again last minute she just drop me sms stating that due to some work ( she went to relatives place with her mom) she cannot come and same day of meeting before 1 hr at 10.15 hrs..
After that incident she send me Good morning MSG on Monday morning at 10.00hrs and later given me explanation on yesterday incidence and then said sorry. Later i asked on her behavior and shared that i felt very bad and disappointed with her action.
Later i dicided not to talk to her and i told her the same thing on that she told me she is shy in nature and take time to adjust with new people. but when i asked what about replying my msges she told me she was busy.
After that i got upset and told her that i dont wish to trouble her any more and don't want to get hurt again then she replied to MSG that i am her best friend and again she did the same thing stop replying my msg and my calls.
I told her i want to tell her very IMP thing and later i also told her that i am having crush on her, after listing this she got ready to meet me on this sunday again.
In this meeting i want to tell her about my past ( divorce ) because we never get chance to talk to each other in person. I am very much clear that if she want to be my friend then i should tell the truth.
I want to get to know her better. We're not very close, but we're good friends and I don't know whether she likes me too.
I don't think I'm ready for a relationship now or I can handle it. And yeah I'm afraid of putting my heart out there in case I'm rejected.
So how do I keep our interactions purely platonic at this point? Meaning that I myself get over the crush and that she doesn't suspect that I love her, while getting to know her better as a friend in the process?
How do I keep things in the friend-zone with my crush? and later express my feeling for her as love.
Or Can i just leave her alone and give her space? pls advice me its very important
love feelings are inevitable and can only be stopped by mind manipulation but only results to regret. however, sometimes our mind puts us in the good side in the long run. thus, practically and mutually beneficial to both of u, is to make way for friendship first coz der u will see each other's side; thus, u can evaluate if she really is for u.. physical attraction is a short term course only but the personality and substance is the main key for long term relationships.. goodluck and have stay happy!
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