I would love to hear anyone's thoughts on my issue. I am happily married to the man of my dreams! He is wonderful in every way and our marriage is quite happy most of the time. I have always been a very physical woman. I enjoy the passion and intimacy of a relationship. My husband, even when we were dating, was always less excited about sexual activity than myself. It is still that way. He is gone at work much of the time and when he comes home, I want nothing but to share some intimate time with him. He does not feel that way. He does enjoy sex and it is always pleasurable for both of us...but getting him to initiate it, or think about it in advance and really WANT it is something different. He's extremely modest and doesn't like to discuss the matter. I think he views sex as a diry thing and he doesn't like to talk about it. He knows that I start feeling rejected and undesired, but that doesn't make him try any harder. If I want it, I have to be the one that initiates it and then I always wonder if he's just doing it out of obligation to keep me happy. It's a painful situation. It hurts my feelings and it does create a strain from time to time. I miss him so much and I long for the intimacy that a married couple should have. He says it's not me and he doesn't understand why he doesn't have the desire, but he just doesn't. Is there ANYTHING I can do? We want to try to make this turn around, but we aren't sure where to start. It's become something that we just ignored, but it's getting to be too much of an issue and I don't want it to tear our marriage apart. Please, if you have thoughts or advice, I love to hear it!!