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Hi everyone,
I'm totally in love with my boyfriend and we have been together for 6 months.We have gone through some real beautiful times together, but recently I'm feeling like he doesn't love me any more. We've been talking about this fear of mine one day and he denied it but I'm sure he reacted this way partly cause he feels sorry for me and doesn't want to break my heart and partly cause we had just had an amazing sex...But I still feel so insicure...I can't make him love me of course and I don't know what I want: to break up with him before our relationship becomes dull or just stick up with him because,frankly, I can't picture my days without him. I know he doesn't want me to be sad and depressed because of him and probably that's why he hasn't said a word about his "dead love"...please...WHAT SHOULD I DO?????
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Date: Tue, 6 Jan 2009 18:12:07 +0100
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Hi Mel,
It seems to me as though you may be projecting your fears of rejection onto your boyfriend, not necessarily a bad thing as couples tend to do this a lot subconciously to test one another's responses. Without knowing more information about his behaviour towards you it's difficult to judge. Is he frequently stand-offish or purposefully non-commital in your relationship? Has his behaviour towards you changed since you first met him? A good sex life is the first major indicator of a healthy relationship, but it's easy to become too concerned with this area and lose focus on the other factors.

The only real way to find out is to have an honest and frank conversation about how you feel - as a loving couple you need to know how you feel about each other. Failing this, try spending a few days apart and allow the dust to settle. Things always seem clearer when you've had some time to digest the facts.

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