well dont no if any one can really assist me here but ....
i have been married to my husband for only a month and tonight he has gone out drinking! well i never heard from him so worried me goes to find him ect he turns up at sisters and goes on one firstly threating me then he acctually beats up his sister. this is not the first time he has done this. my worry is and help i need is what do i do ? i have a 9 month old daughter and im concerened he going to come home and continue his agression i have locked a bolted the door but am so scared that he will try coming in.
has any one got some advice ? i dont want to make him worse
First : YOU Cant make him worse. he is sick all on his own. you haven't caused ANYTHING, but at the same time you won't change anything either... He has to do it all on his own.
All you can do is change YOURSELF. If I were you? I would run like hell...
if he tries to stop you, i would set some safe and firm boundaries such as : he must seek professional help.
counselor or go to an AA meeting or more!!!
Sounds like there may be some anger issues, and if there are and they're unresolved AND he doesn't know how to deal with those feelings OR DOESN'T WANT TO, he may be covering it up with drugs, alcohol or sex or gambling... who knows, and it WILL get worse... NEVER better. He will try and say he can do it on his own, (BUT HE CAN'T).
anyway, sounds to me like you could use some help yourself.
Go to al-anon meeting. there are meetings on-line. just look for something in your area and get some healthy support behind yourself!! IT'S FREE!
now go...