HI Girls - i have read the posts on this topic and feel better and I feel worse. I understand what each woman is going through. I have found myself in a rather sticky situation myself. I was married for a year (a young stupid mistake, i was 21) and am now 23 in my second year of law school. I am crazy in love in with a great man. He is smart, funny and very handsome. We have been together for five months. He has admitted to me - without being asked -that he has cheated on other girls in the past and wanted to be as forthright with me as possible. I KNOW that he loves me and wants to be with me, and I feel the same about him. I feel so lucky to have him. Here's the problem - he does have a few close female friends - and one slutty ex gf - who randomly text him. I have peeked in his phone before and I admit it and regret it bc i know that he thinks it means I dont trust him. I really dont know if I do trust him. We spend almost every night together (5 out of 7) and we are legitimately best friends - we are open and talk about everything and enjoy everything we do together. I have no tangible evidence - no emails or texts - but just a hunch bc he texts alot and loves AIM but I do know that he really does spend a lot of time texting with his dad and sis and some regular friends. He is not defensive when i ask him about it. He says that it really hurts him that I think that. I know most people say trust your instinct, but I dont want to trust myself right out of this guys life. When we talk about it, he says its the accusatory behavior and snooping that would put an end to us - which he does not want. Does anyone have any thoughts? Am I just being over paranoid or do you think your instinct is end all be all? Thanks for any help!