6 months ago I met a guy on his business trip to my town. I know that everything happened too fast and by allowing this it was my mistake. Unrealisticly from our first date we talked about what we want in the future, he told me about his family, his personal events in life and how they made impact on him...I mean if he just wanted romance he would not have shared with me so much...maybe a little to win my trust but not all. Then he left, I said that I doubt that we see each other soon and he said: "no, I will call you"...Only after 5 months he did call me and said "lets meet". I realy like this guy and would like to give a real realtionship a start and get to know him...but if his intention is just to meet me, to be close and then disapear again for 5 months its not how its done and I want to talk to him openly about the situation before we continue any further. I feel like asking him on the phone: "why you want to meet now after you never spoken to me for the past 5 months, what is your expectation?" which will show him that it is not how its done..but I also think perhaps its better to let him come see me and talk in person about it...what do you think, shall I end/talk through it with him over the phone without letting him see me again showing that I also can "dissapear on him" or give it a try and talk with him when he comes visit? I want to see if he is willing to work with me on this together. And what do you recomend I say without sounding occusive or negative.
I just want to see if there is a potetial of us understanding each other and having a relationship before I let him go. I know its unrealistic to like someone very much who you just met once, but I felt at that time "just right" with him....and I care about him....:-(
Thank you so much,
I appreciate and wait for your guidance
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Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
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13 May 2008 21:10
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