my boyfriend is cheating on me but I can't leave him

We've dated for about 4 yrs and lived together almost that long. Problem iks this he made friends with this gal and they call each other daily even when am asleep he'll go to the toilet to talk. i know he's cheating but when I confronted him he denied it all. am sad to think that having invested for this time its all falinng apart. Other than that he has introduced me to his family and his mum and I are friends. I talked to her about the issue but she says I should't overeact be quiet but she know he loves me. He tells me am the best and all but I dont want to cry anymore. I want to be happy, How do I start?

dump him

Hi
I typed my bf is cheating on me in google and this message came up so i had to reply
Im in exactly your position my bf an i have been togethr for almost 3 yrs, i thought he was the one id spend the rest of my life with but now im havin doubts...hes been cheating on me with someone at work, and as he works at a hotel and she lives there its a very convient for him...
I found out almost a month ago and since then hes been going back and forth between her an me, your probably asking yourself why i dont walk away, i honestly cant bring myself to end our realtionship i just love him too much!!
Our reationship has had its ups and downs, like every realtionship but the pain im feelin at the moment cant even be put into words... he just isnt a very nice person to me to be honst he hits me and puts me down and makes me feel small, but on the same token makes me feel special and loved, which is what i crave because i have had a hard past...What makes the whole situaltion worse is the fact weve been tryin for a baby because i have always wanted a baby and i thought that was what he wanted 2, and now hes doing this to me...no other word but spinless!
I always said to myself that if i ever found out that hed cheated on me id kick both there teeth in and walk away imdiatly and it would definatly make me not love him any more but now im in that situation, i pysically cant...

And this is the crazy thing about it since i found out ive been chattin with the other girl hes seeing,and been nice but only cud he told her at 1st he wasnt with me no more-when he was. I actually feel sorry for her aswell as for myself lol she has got sucked in like i have and now has fallen for him too, i no she cant experience the love i feel for him but i can see he made her feel special too just like me...at the moment shes the only one i can actually talk to properly about this, shes the only one that understands...She wants this to end as well i do cause lets face it this cant carry on!!

Today he told her he thinks he loves her a bit :( so what does that mean he loves us both, he says he only said that to make her feel better casue he feels bad but i no thats bull....
I wish everything would all go away, i no im been treated like a doormat but i love him and i just cant cope been alone...i no only i can end this but hes saying hell get a new job and be with me, so dont want to end this and him be with her...i just love him so fookin much
I know this post was ment to be to help u but its turned into a cry for help, i can see u posted it a good few months ago so maybe your problem is sorted and you can help me

Chloe x

Hi Cloe I exactly know the pain you are going through. Am in the same thing at the moment. Nothing has changed. Its all the same story the pain hte lies the tears I really am down and I have exams soon. I just can't find strength within myself to let go. He isn't a bad person but what he's doing is worng. Honestly I hate this other gal and I wish I never met her. But wishing never solves anything. I want things to go back to the way they were. Am afraid to let go I know am young and beautiful and I can make it on my own but I dont want to be by myself. He actually calls her everymorning after uni classes and every night b4 he sleeps. I cant stop him from doing all this but I can stop myself. My gals tell me its high time to say goodbye but am not interested in any other guy. Holla back gal I think we can help each other. take care.