I wrote in earlier today and wanted to add a few comments. I had asked my husband if he had ever been sexually abused and he said no. I also asked him if he thought he was gay or attracted to men in any way and he said no. He (and I) also come straight home from work every day and are together all weekend, so there is no question about where and with whom we are spending time. I used to have a lot of friends, some of which I lost when my ex-husband and I divorced, some got into drugs, some have moved away, etc.. My husband seems to have never really had any friends. So, we have no friends and no one to spend time with, either alone, or as a couple. Also, we have no close family. My mother passed away 21/2 years ago and my brother lives in another state. My husband's mother is extremely cold and detatched. She has never acknowlegded me. He is not close to anyone in his family. Both of our fathers have been deceased for years. My husband's when he was only 7 years old. Mine, I never really knew and he was only on the fringes of my life. I never really had any feelings for him. Also, from the many things my husband has said and the way he reacts I have come to the conclusion that he thinks ALL women are bitches. Pretty sad situation, huh?
Yes, but a sad situation can be changed into a much better one. if you start working on your problems. Write ideas on a paper when you get them. Do the things on your paper whenever you have spare time. After a while you will find out that your life is better than before.
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