I am in love with a married man. I know, I know, I am immoral and dipicable. But before you judge, just hear my story. This married man and I dated in school. (Way back in 7th and 8th grade). He was my first love, in fact. I have always loved him, even though I was the one to break up with him! Why? His mother was very controlling and wouldn't let me see him! Anyway, I have never stopped thinking about him or regretting my mistake.
I am now 24 years old, and still in love with my first love. I recently began dating someone very close to him: his cousin! Though, I didn't know it at the time. Now my first love is married with a baby. I have to see him at every family gathering, and so on. I know that he shares my feelings, because the eyes don't lie. When a man stares at you the way he does at me, well, a girl just knows! There is an unspoken conversation between our hearts. Even my boyfriend and his wife see it. He and I try not to speak, because both of them have forbidden us to do so.
The problem is, I have to confront my mistake and relive the pain constantly! There is no going back. There is no confessing my feelings to clear my conscious. There is no forgetting that I'm in love with a man, but I can't tell him and hope he loves me back. It's not fair to love someone so much, so deeply, for so long and never have that love returned. I just keep denying my heart, denying my true feelings. He does too, though. So I guess it's the right thing to do.
I'm not trying to wreck his life or his family.(New or old) It's just so hard living life as only half of who I really am. Part of me wants to confront these feelings to see if we still have that spark. To see if I am truely in love with him, or just the image of the boy I knew. The other part of me says that exploring these feelings, even confessing to him and nothing more, would be selfish, and put him in a difficult situation. Should I just go on living my life not knowing, always thinking of him, always being in pain? Never feeling complete? Should I take the plunge and just deal with the consequences? The guy I am dating now (his cousin) has been so wonderful to me. I don't want to hurt him, but I am unsure of where my heart truely lies. HELP ME PLEASE!
My husband had an affair that resulted in emotional and physical feelings for this woman. We are still together as I believe that my marriage can be healed. I am devastated and heartbroken as I believe in my marriage vows. My husband tried to end it with her several times but yet she keeps on pursuing him and her reason being is that "he can't deny his feelings." He is trying to do the right thing for our marriage, his wife and his kids, and she is just making it hard. I don't understand how someone can keep pursuing their feelings for someone who is already married. Marriage means nothing to those who do this. You will never know the sanctity of marriage. You cannot take the plunge and deal with the consequences. HE IS MARRIED. That means he is OFF LIMITS. Why is that so hard to understand??
Iam in love with a married man from where i work he dont know it because i cant tell him. My heart skips a beat when i see him. He is 23 years older then me and i dont know what to do. I really love him but i dont want to hurt him. His son also works there. I dont know what i should do i could really mess things up for him but i want him so Bad. Ifeel iam a bad person for falling in love with him, i try to forget about him but i just cant what should I do?????
You guys dated as kids... it was a childhood crush. It was over 11 yrs ago & your still young & you think because now you see him as a man & married that his wife took your place & you could have possibly been with him now & with a child from him possibly. But you had your chance & runined it. You let things & people get in your way. Guess what sweety! There is alot more in your way now & I think to get it off you chest first you should tell the cousin the man your now dating the whole story & hopefully he doesn't think your an inmature woman with a childhood crush & dumps you on the stop for even putting your current new, good relationship to crap over a CRUSH.... Then you should at one point tell this guy your ex now married man in a friendly setting like at a coffee shop how you felt as a kid for him & how you still find him attractive. Wait for his response but please don't flirt or touch or do anything to entice the situation remember he is a man & what you want is to know if there was anything mutual between you and him in the PAST & further more if he STILL feels that way. Whatever he tells you just listen to every word very carefully & embrace the whole moment beacuse its a moment you've wanted for such a long time. But he is now married & you should respect that. The world turn & you wouldn't want someone taking you husband. Period. You have the cousin a close relative of his & you should work on that relationship & even thought you cant have the now married man you can have the cousin & i'm sure there are similarities between them. See where that takes you. The past is past work on the current. Because you wouldn't want anymore what if's.. Even if it doesn't last atleast you put work into this relationship & didn't run away because of this mother or whatever lol. Atleast now you've told your feelings to both men and are completely honest with yourself & them & move on... Good Luck!
Preserve those days and move on as he is taken and not only that the feeling that you are having is just a crush .And things are not as rosy as it looks after honeymoon life is as usuall taking care about family and responsibility.
And what are you trying to gain his wifes place well honey you left it and now its taken.Build a beautiful life with this man who loves you so much and have you ever though you are doing the same mistake you so unsure right now and i can't entirely blame you your age is such too.Trust me once you are settle with you BF and have your family you will not have much time to think since you will have your own little family.
Move on dear that's the best advice i would give don't do anything stupid and preseve those days as a memory they will make you laugh later.
All the best
Hi, I have read countless articles about women having affairs with married men. Many articles keep saying that the woman is bad, or both people are bad. This may be true in a lot of cases. But every single situation is different. Take the case of a married man who has an arranged marriage. He has since changed so much that he would never have agreed to marry his wife now. He has kids and is just staying with her for the children. It is impossible for him to divorce but he loves another woman. That woman knows that the can never divorce and has never asked him to and never will. She knows it would be wrong for him to get divorced. But no one must ever judge these 2 people. The simple fact of the matter is they truly have fallen in love and love each other deeply and it is a very different love to the arranged marriage love. His arranged marriage love has to work and it is a business love. The other woman knows this and has to be strong to accept this. She has no intention of ever wrecking the marriage but has to accept the current situation. But both cannot stop loving each other. To all those people who judge - the power of true and real love is very very strong. And some people have affairs simply because they are now married to the wrong person. Everyone changes in their life. You know it really is possible for 2 married people to change and be different to the person they married. Mr Z changes so much through various work and life issues, his wife Mrs Z is exactly the same person he married 10 years ago. You know this does happen and this is why marriage "is not a word its a sentence" to quote my favourite saying. Some people change beyond all recognisation and through this change find the person they really would prefer to be with now.
STAY AWAY FROM THE MARRIED MAN... FIND ONE YOU CAN HAVE AND NOT BREAK UP A HOME AND FAMILY. IF HE HAD LOVED YOU HE WOULDN'T BE MARRIED TO SOMEONE ELSE. Would you want someone doing this to YOU? I doubt it.
i know exactly what you are going through... i'm in the same situation except he's not married... I am dating his cousin/best friend for the past 2 years.. he hate's it but i really love his cousin.. although i constantly think about him... i've thought of just confronting him but that will ruin everything between me and my present boyfriend and that might give him a reason to break us up and plus i might regret it once i get it odd my chest!! .. i like what you said though, you do know when he feels the same way because when he looks at me, ahh, he looks deep within.. but then we just turn our heads awkwardly and act like we never looked at each other.. i met him when i was 15 and he was my first love and i lost my virginity to him.. but he became way too possessive and angry and i moved on... im 21 now but the feelings still remain...
Sometimes it's best to let go of the past and stop wondering about what could have been... he's married, he has a child... your moment has passed sweety.. take a long vacation somewhere tropical with your present boyfriend and see where it takes you. i bet you will learn more about him and who he is in that trip than you ever had in all your time of dating him.. Don't go looking for prince charming, you have to make him :)
I understand I'm in love a married man. He has been married for 13 years and has older kids and grandkids. I really love this man it is easy for someone to say walk away be it is so hard to do. You know what your doing is not right but your heart want let you walk away." I'M IN LOVE WITH MARRIED MAN". Please help what can do? I love him so much every time I say I'm going to leave my heart says stay. It hurt so much just the thought of being without him.
i kno my case is a bit serious,im 20 and he is 52. We have been seeing each other since january 2009 and believe me we have never had sex, well he tried but i just won't let him. His wife lives in a different town & his kids are overseas at school so he stays on his own. I still stay with my parents but he has been renting a flat for me for about 6mnths now. He has since bought a bed, fridge, coffee table for our home & is always asking me to buy the kitchenware but im not sure if i really want to do this. I love him so much and i kno he does the same. My problem is he has been asking to marry me since 7 or so months ago! Wat do i do coz i thin about what people n my parents wil say, i feel its wrong but i'd luv to stay with him. Help
I have been with a married man for two years. We fell in love when we first saw each other but we didn't say anything until 2 months later. I have never felt anything like this. People might think i am evil but i am not. I am a woman that was living a normal life then love found me unexpectedly at the wrong time. Sometimes i wish we had met earlier but then i think to myself, he wouldn't have these lovely kids he has now and i wouldn't have my daughter. I am black and he is white. His wife has no respect for black people because "black people are like animals they don't have morals" she says. I used to feel sorry for this woman but as i got to know her i realised she deserves everything that is coming her way. She says she would have no problem with her husband having another woman as long as the woman is human(white). I make this man happy and i am the woman he loves. I won't ask him to divorce her because those kids needs their father there as i don't think that woman is stable enough to raise them by herself.
I dont understand whats going on! I am with somebody, and there is distance between us, he lives away from me and with my busy work routine I dont see him as much as I would of liked! Theres a guy at work,and yes hes the married one! I hate myself for letting it get like this. I know its nothing like love, but I cant shake him out my head, and well things started to develop. Well we had to do a thing at work and we had to work togther, and spending time with him felt great. I didnt feel anything physical or out like that, just that I could really talk to him and we got on great as mates, laughed at jokes that we instantly new what each other was thinking. Well we got talking on a social network site, and he starts telling me stuff. I can honestly say I dont know how this stated!! Hes liked me for a while, or so he says, and I just go with the flow, a little teasing here and there, nothing harmful. Until oneday he makes a plan to kiss me at work, I thought it was all fun and games just a little banter, what they dont know wont hurt right?? WRONG! I KNOW. But there we was at work and I chickend the plan, this was real, not a game I thought id play. I start to like him, even more than my own boyfriend at that point, how can this be so. We plan again and again. Then I start thinking of ways so I can text him,talk to him, be near him, things to do with work, asking questions, so he replys. It was fine at first, he started it talking to me, my face lit up every time. I knew it was wrong to feel this way I couldnt control it, I didnt feel guilty what he was doing behind his wife back. Anyway, he stopped replying to some texts and started acting higher at work like he was in charge. Fair enough, I knew it had to stop anyway, lucky we never did anything too bad, just a few kisses etc. I thought id stop, I did stop and i ignored him, gave one worded answers and saw him constantly texting other people, I was jelous! He started texting again asking whats wrong, and asking whats next plan, I said i didnt know, and never gave any answers. But before i knew it he had a hold on me, to make the next plan! I will not give him the satisfaction of controlling me! This wise man once said if your going to cheat, always so it with someone thats with someone, well that wise man taught me and thats what I did, with himself. I may have a few things to lose but he will lose his whole life. Does that make me a bad person. Its not like he loves his wife, because he wouldnt of started this,I feel so bad and guilty toward my partner! I hate myself! Why can i be so foolish? It just lust, amazing how I feel when im with him, how he has a hold on me.HOW THIS MUST STOP! I dont know why i cant, is it because im scared of losing his friendship, and then things been awkard at work, well I dont know. Its not like anything positive affects out of this, hes married, got a kid to another person, 9 years differnce, and had probably had tons of affiars before. Im just a fucked up girl trapped in a fucked up world! Ive put myself in his wifes shoes, and it made me want to hurt myself for knowing id hurt her if this was found out. It has to stop, how? I need answers! Im a destroyer! Sin my now!
this man im in love with it hurt alot because we have been together for nine years and its hard to just get him out my mind just like that but im going to be ok because i have GOD on my side to walk me right out of love the same way i got in love
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