My husband has a 21 yr old daughter from a previous marriage, who lives about 6 hours away. She is a very pretty and well developed girl. She often calls him and talks to him about her sex life, as well as her relationships.
One story she told him about how she put nail marks on an ex-boyfriends back. She has sent him revealing pictures of herself via email, which my husband looks at and comments on them. (Some of his comments are about how trashy she dresses.) Some of these pictures are of her in bras and panties, and another one is of her with money draped over her partially naked body. When she visits, she walks around in bras and boy shorts, which results in me being the one to ask her to cover up since my husband and I have a 12 year old son in the home.
During her visits with us, she constantly makes comments to my husband about her breasts being so big. The last time she visited was for 4 days, during which time my husband refused to have sexual relations with me since she was in our home. (She was in another room asleep.) I don't think this is normal, but my husband thinks it is. He says that it shows that they have a 'close' relationship and that she can confide in him about anything. Any advice would be welcome. Thanks.
I understand that you feel very provoked about your stepdaughter's behavior. And your husband does not understand your feelings. Would it be possible for you to leave house during the days, when she visits your husband? Do something very nice for yourself. Or bring your son if he cannot stand his stepsister.
Sex should only take place when both partners want it. Your husband probably feels more relaxed when his daughter is not in the house.