I think I’m crazy. I hate to use that word, but I really think I have some kind of chemical imbalance or at least that’s what my relationship is making me believe. I’ve been married for 2 months. I’ve known my husband for a year and half. After 2 months, our fights and arguments have got so bad we are thinking of seeing a marriage counselor. I don’t believe in paying someone for their advice. So maybe one of you can help me.
My husband is the type of guy who seen a lot of bad things growing up between his parents before they split. My parents have been together almost 26 years. I hate to say but he’s a pushover when it comes to friends, work and life in general. He doesn’t have much ambition to do something more with his life, he’s anal, and will only point out the negative things I do and hardly ever reflects on the positive. He’s very over protective, he like’s to ask 20 million questions about pointless subjects, but doesn’t believe that is giving the third degree. When we fight (which seems to be often) it’s these things that I bring up. Me, I have a problem with saying very hurtful things when to him when I’m mad. I guess it’s my way of trying to make him feel as angry or sad as I do on the inside. And they can be some very horrible things and then I tend to ignore the problem or just want to walk away from it. Every time we sit down and try and talk if I say something he will try and analyze it and turn it in to something it’s not, when I try to explain it he says I’m talking to him like he’s stupid. I then get so frustrated I say more mean and disrespectful things. Of course after doing that he holds that fact over my head and just tells me how crazy I am. I mean did we rush into things to fast? Do we really need to start marriage counseling after just 2 months because we can’t figure out a way to communicate? Is this normal? Somebody please help me cause when I see him, it feels like my heart is breaking for what I feel toward him now, just so angry.