It's been 2 months now since my break up with my girlfriend. It was a very ugly break up. She started dating another guy right after we broke up. I'm 99.99% sure she's having sex with him. I can;t stop thinking about this topic and i need to force myself pretty hard not to think about it. Don't understand me wrong, i still love her and i hope she's having great fun, but i do not understand why i think about them having sex and why i am so worried about how she compares me with that guy?! Why is it so hard to let go?
Now i've been practically incapable of finding myself a new gf...i tried right after the break up with some success but i realised that i wasn't feeling at all satisfied so i stoped and realised i made it kinda worse...and now i think i'm ready but as soon as i go to a place where i'd like to meet a new girl i start thinking of her and stuff and...i don't know.
I simply cannot understand what it is i want and need....actually i know, i need her but i consider i humiliated myself enough...
I would much apreciate it if you could answer me those questions above reffering to me thinking about them having sex...because it doesn't really seem normal to me to think about how much better than me that guy is, or how big is his penis, or how good he is in bed or any of this stuff or how she's compareing the 2 of us.
Breakups are most of the times hard on people. It sounds like this breakup have been hard on you. You shouldn't worry about you comparing yourself to the other guy. After a breakup it's common to wonder about what other qualities your ex:s new partner has that you haven't got. so comparing yourself to that guy i perfectly normal.
Focus on other things in your life that you like doing. Be with friends, and after a while things will get better.