Lack of desire

Forty two years of marriage, thirty years of no sex. Not fair to my partner. I have gone to doctors and shrinks all with no effect. I do have sexual dreams, also when I see an atractive woman I do get sexually aroused, but when it comes to the wife, it is not there. I have read all sorts of books on the matter, to the point as why bother anymore as the wife finally has asked to leave. I can't blam her, also I can't find fault, as I would never have been this patient, if the roles were reversed. Why am I writing this? I do want to be normal. By the way, I do have three lovely daughters, all adults with children. I do not know what there sex lives are like, but from this side of the fence they all seem normal. What is a sexologist? Are there such people in this field, or is this all a fancy name for a woman of the night?

A sexologist is a psychotherapist specializing in sexual dysfunctions. You are probably quite normal but not interested in having sex with your wife anymore.