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reply ** Re: Relationship with my family , Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92 , 03 Oct 2007 07:33
question Relationship with my family , ****** , 03 Oct 2007 07:09
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Relationship with my family
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Date: Wed, 3 Oct 2007 07:09:11 +0200
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Hi, I am 29years old guy from major city in India. I am a casual attitude guy, friends feel I have a good sense of humour. I enjoy making others laugh. I extract wit even in the most intense matter. But, now I am very depressed. I don't know how do I handle my relationship with my family. I am feeling too weak and let down to face it any more. We are a family of 6, Mom, Dad, my three lovely sisters and me, being the eldest son. I love my family more than anything.

But I am not certain why they always feel I am wrong. Quarrels arise due to small things. E.g. They do not keep me informed of anything happening in the family. I want to be part of my family in happy and in the unhappy times. I am ignored, I can take being abused, shouted or ill-treated, but I cannot bear being ignored. I get frustrated, angry and finally break-up and I voice out. They feel I am the reason for the tension at home. I am truthful and honest in anything I am engaged with, but this is very disturbing and hurting me mentally and emotionally.

I feel maybe it is because I am not stable in my jobs. I have been very good in my studies, I have done my graduation with great difficulty. I did all menial jobs and supported my family and my education. And this holds great value for me. But in my working career of 12years I have changed 23 jobs. The only longest being one in a call-centre for 18months. My sister, in her work-span of 10years has changed only two companies and is in a good designation earning a very lucrative salary. Not only her, most of the guys of my age are all in some respectable position.

I have no qualms for not being the same as them. I am content for whateverI am today, coz one thing I understand whatever we are or happens to us the only person responsible for that is none other than ourself, so do I take the blame or responsibility as the society addresses it. My only concern is my family, I love them a lot. Can't they ever understand how much I need them. I don't want to lose my patience any more and cause any disturbance. I don't know what to do. I want peace.
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From: Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
Date: Wed, 3 Oct 2007 07:33:25 +0200
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Tell your family what you need from them and ask them what they need from you to be able to give you what you need.

Read about getting what you need from other people.




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