I recently discovered after a year of dating my high school sweetheart that he moved to our area to live with his aunt and uncle because he was convicted of sexually abusing his half brother (7) and half sister (4) at the age of 11/12. He is in 'good' standing with his father and stepmother, whom I have met, BUT, they are still convinced he did molest his siblings, while HE says he didn't, was forced to say he did to prevent further ramifications, and was later proven "innocent by lie detector in therapy". He tells me to this day that something may have happened to his siblings, but he did not do a thing. I believe him, mostly. He has a normal social life, is a great, nice guy, but is not aware that his supressed childhood is has an effect on his behavior and life. He's a borderline alcoholic- i.e. can only have a good time with beer, all the time, and cannot commit to anything (work, where to live)and has an extremely difficult time with explaining or talking about his feelings, or understanding himself/actions, and cannot show love in anyway other than saying "I love you". Is this normal pyschological behavior of a child who did/went through something like this? How do I learn/get him to figure out what actually happened without being pushed away? I want to understand him, but there is NOTHING I can find on the internet about behavioral studies on past abusers. And he is using the escape mechanism of "I didn't do it".