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reply Re: A Lie , Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92 , 19 Jul 2007 17:32
question A Lie , ****** , 19 Jul 2007 11:41
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A Lie
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Date: Thu, 19 Jul 2007 11:41:12 +0200
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I have admiited to a lie that I told my husband 17 years ago. I told him that I was raped which in fact is not true. I was a virgin when I met my husband and I expected that when I have sex for the first time, I would bleed profusely, Instead, I only noticed a little blood afterward when I wiped. I was only 18 years at that time and I am not sure what got into me, that I lied about a rape. I think I was too immature and seeking self pity and thinking that by my husband pitying me would love me more. Instead it was not like that. I had many miserable years and just because of a lie. I obviuosly couldn't go back on my word and wasn't sure what to do. I am now 35 years old and we had a huge fight about the incident last week. I finally got the courage to tell him that the rape was not the truth. He asked me to go for a lie detector test which I was willing to, but then he told that I should cancel the polygraph test. I have obviously matured alot in 17 years and have come to realize that we cannot live a lie anymore. he said at first that he needed closure and the only way he could get it is from a lie detector test, now he says that he believes me. I am not sure what to do. Please help me. I also need closure on that chapter of life. Please help.
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From: Gunborg Palme - Leg psykolog - Leg psykoterapeut - Telefon 08-664 60 92
Date: Thu, 19 Jul 2007 17:32:25 +0200
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The hymen is a myth. Many women do not bleed at all during their first intercourse. Women only bleed if their vagina is too narrow. I understand that you lied to your husband to explain why you did not bleed very much. Stop fighting and forget about that stupid lie. Look forward and try to make each other happy from now and on.




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