My girlfriend and I have been together for eight years. We are both 30 yrs old and have 2 children together ages 5 and 3. Her friend and my friend were having a strictly sexual relationship and they set us up on a blind date. The date went along and we ended up having sex on the first night. Mutual physical attraction was definately there and as time went by I got to know her, I fell in love. Despite my friend telling me it's only been a couple of weeks and that it's too soon to be in love and that "you can not turn a whore into a housewife". Like all relationships, we've had our disagreements and at times we've shown our inability to compromise. But nothing that could brake us apart. Earlier in our relationsip I wondered if it was the first time she had sex on the first date or was this a common occurance or occasionally or what? As a result, I bombarded her with questions about her sexual past such as have you ever had an orgy, how many guys you've been with, have you ever been with any of your brothers friends, what age did you lose your virginity, and the list went on. She said she told me the truth about everything and I also answered all her questions. As the yeras went by I learned you take the good you take the bad you take them both and well you know the rest. Throughout the years I've always been really clear on how I hate to be kept in the dark about anything that is relating or concerning me. Now eight years later I still love her very, very much. I think our relationship has progressed. Recently her and one of her brothers had an argument and my girlfriend called his girlfriend a whore. He was pissed off so I told him lets go in the yard and cool off. He was really angry he said she has the nerves to call my girfriend a whore when she and another girlfriend had an orgy with two friends that he grew up with. I said WHAT? He said yeah that's right and you know both of them. He told me who they were. I hung out with these guys at family barbecues about six times. One was at my baby shower. I've shaken their hands. These two guys grew up with all three of her brothers, they know this happended they said they were mad but they're still friends with these guys. Only one brother told me this he begged me not to tell her, he said this happen when she was 19 leave it alone. An orgy, my heart almost came out of my mouth. I can feel rage inside of me. I have never felt like this before. I feel weak in every way. But most of all, I feel stupid. I hangin out with her brother and their friends meanwwhile everyone knows that these two guys ran a train on my girl but me. Now I want to confront her about it but her brother told me that she will never forgive him and that she will never speak to him as long as he lives. Some how I believe him. Now I'm so confused and at the same time I'm wondering was she a slut, why she kept me in the dark and had me talking to these guys and laughing with them. Now in the future if I see one of these guys with one of her brothers at a get together I don't know how to act. I still love her but somehow she looks worthless to me. Know I notice how I do most of the cooking, laundry, putting kids to bed. I'm stating to think my friend was right when he said you can't turn a whore into a housewife. I"m not mad that this happened I'm mad that she saw me hanging with them and didn't tell me. She had me in the dark looking stupid. I don't know how to feel, how to act, how to look at her now, I feel like she is a stranger in our home. I don't know if I can ever look at her the same again. Please help me. I need help. Please help me.
Young people do stupid thing. I suppose you did stupid things too, when you were young, that you do not want people to know about. Do not destroy your life by being jealous about her past. I am against people telling about their sexual experiences as their partners cannot take it. Her brother should have kept his mouth shut.