Sources and references for: Problem with Jealousy of Past Relations

Question:

Any suggestion welcome, because i sure am out of ideas.

My husband has always had a bit of a problem about my past, because I had guys before him. I always thought, well, what's the deal, it's not like you were a virgin. well, after 10 years I found out he actually was one. I am happy that he finally trusts me enough to admit it, even though i will never completly understand why he kept it a secret for so long. However, it does not change the fact that he gets sometimes jealous about my time before him.

We both know I can't change that and that he was aware of my past when we got together. Most of the time everything is all right, but sometimes it isn't, and then our life turns into an emotional hell. He will hurt my feelings with little snide remarks and then just ignore me. Unfortunately, when I am in emotional pain, my whole body hurts, so I can't even function properly then, and 3 kids don't help that either.

So, what could we try to get that weird jealosy under control?

Sources, references:

1. Zacher, A: Pathological jealousy, MMW Fortschr Med. 2004 Oct 28;146(44):49, 51.
2. Westlake, R.J., Weeks, S.M.: Pathological jealousy appearing after cerebrovascular infarction in a 25-year-old woman. Aust N Z J Psychiatry. 1999 Feb;33(1):105-7.Click here to read
3. The clinical experience of Gunborg Palme, certified psychologist and certified psychotherapist, teacher and tutor in psychotherapy.