I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years. Everything has been good until a few months ago when she became the general manager at her store. She has changed, and I don't know why. Its like she doesn't have any concern for me. We had our disagreements but nothing serious. She will not talk to me about it and says if she didnt love me she would not have me around. We used to have alot of fun together, even with all the kids the 2 of us have, but I feel like I am losing her, in fact, I feel as if she's already gone. If I stay in this, its going to tear me apart. I love her and cannot leave. She has me all confused on what to do. Please help me deal with this misery.
Your girlfriend has advanced in her job and become general manager. It sounds as if she has got more responsibility and has to handle many new problems every day. This is not easy for her to manage, and she has to attend much more to the problems of her work.
What she needs from you is that you understand how pressed her new life is, and that you take over more of her previous responsibility in managing your home and children. When she has grown accustomed to her new work, she will not be so pressed, and will hopefully become more of your old girlfriend.
It is not easy for a woman to both work full time and then come home to a messy home with many children with different demands. If you have food ready when she comes home, longing for rest and relaxation, and give her the security that the home works when she is at work, then you give her the chance to feel her love for you.
She probably feels that there are more requirements than she can cope with. She needs to feel that you give her the support a grown up man can give to another person.