Depending on the extent of the sexual preferences, it is often
impossible for those in the environmental of person with a paraphilia to
understand how the person behaves. Feelings of shame, contempt or anger
towards the person are very frequent. This depends on how often the person
comes into contact with justice or confronts others.
When the behavior is limited to a bedroom or a sex club it is often less
annoying for the environment. It is important to transmit feelings in the
right way to the person. Explain that you want to understand why the
person behaves like this or how the person feels, but it is hard for you
to imagine or you find it hard to talk about. Wanting to change the
person is not a goal, being able to accept other tastes and preferences
as long as they are not punishable, is important.