Frage:
Ich habe Angst mit einem Mann zu sprechen, den ich eigentlich gerne mag. Und er mich wohl auch. Eigentlich möchte ich es, aber ich kein Zurückweisung oder Ablehnung nicht ertragen und werde dann wütend und hilflos. Was hilft bei Angst vor Ablehnung und Zurückweisung?Antwort:
Würde es einfacher für Sie sein, ihm einen Brief zu schreiben? Konnten Sie ihm Ihren Brief zu mir vielleicht zeigen?
It is not easy to cure shyness. Often, it's a lifelong condition that keeps you from getting as much from life as more outgoing individuals. It's easier to get what you want out of life if you are daring. But it is true that many shy people get less afraid with time.
You say that you are afraid of feeling rejected, but in fact it's your boyfriend who's feeling rejected because you're not showing enough interest and affection.
You can't live life being afraid. You have to do things, even if they frighten you. It's like parachute jumping - you feel great anxiety and don't really know where you are going to land. Did you make a fool of yourself, or will everything turn out okay?
Whenever you think positive and loving thoughts about your boyfriend, speak them out loud, without thinking first. Take the risk of being rejected instead of rejecting him. And I promise, you will not be rejected! People happily receive all the love they can get.